Imagine a world around you where you feel reassured and contented and not care what other people think. If you wish to progress in life, you need at least some degree of emotional wall built up otherwise you will let people and certain events tie you down. This emotional wall that I speak of is important in our daily lives and valuable to everyone.
If somebody says something that you consider offensive and hurtful, you may become sulky and sad or irate and boisterous in a matter of defending yourself. Why?
Why people’s opinion of you affects you so much?
Because you place other people’s words and opinions more than how you value your own thoughts and opinions of yourself.
When people have certain thoughts of you and they say certain words about you or take certain action, you allow it to restrict you, and this no doubt influence your state happiness, it affects how you react to it.
However, when you have to decipher what to dwell in your subconscious, what you feed in your subconscious, and have the ability to detached yourself psychologically you can experience greater peace inside completely unaffected by circumstance, by other people patronizing, resentful feeling and emotions towards you.
Let’s face it, we all encounter people occasionally who think negative of us. Some of these thoughts are not really said and sometimes we know and sometimes we don’t, but we know that reality exists.
When we feed our thoughts into positive, then over time, we will naturally emit a positive sense of living.
Our thoughts go through cycles, it goes through, negative and positive and in-between until it we grab the one that we consider most fitting.
If we think the same thoughts over and over again, feeding them with our attention, we soak up the energy from those thoughts so if it is a negative energy that’s what you will come out and if it is positive, that’s what you will come out.
Who the heck they you they are?
Some people say you are worthless, you’re not worthy enough, I think somewhere in your mind you think so too if you are going to mope over it and feel bad and withdrawing yourself and not aspirant as opposed to you thinking that you are great and can achieve anything.
When you think that you are the master of your destiny, you control what becomes of your life and you are worth living then no matter what people say or do, they can’t shake you, they can’t deter you from achieving whatever your goals are.
Essentially, any part of us that considers ourselves incompetent will become activated when someone says that about you. If we’re very unsure of ourselves, people will sense these things, and often prey on us because they consider that as being weak.
Also, for some people, because they are shallow minded, they will take every chance to try to belittle you. Guess what be like me, take these words and challenge it. It’s not even worth arguing over because nothing you say can change some people’s mind because they think within limits.
However, you must know who you are and what you can do, that’s the greatest thing that people should realize; 1 million people can stand against you, but if your mind is made, if you think highly of yourself (not in a manner that belittles anyone but in fashion that speaks true worth) you can do anything.
And let me add this, people will can’t help but support you. Some people will become tired of fighting, and God will bring some people into your life who he has predestined, and even if it is one person, that person’s connection can take you very far.
People’s negative thoughts can affect us only if we already thought of ourselves in that negative way.
If someone one thinks we are a disappointment and we feel affected by it, this is only because had already thought of ourselves as a disappointment. However, anyone who makes us feel anything, good or bad, simply mirrors how we see ourselves and we’ll truly know how we feel about ourselves.
When you give too much weight to other people’s over yours, you’re basically saying self you don’t matter, everyone else does.
When your self-esteem is wrapped around what other people think of you this is what happens: people approve – You feel awesome! When other people disapprove of you-you feel like the worst ever!
STOP IT
You’re only enslaving yourself and putting yourself in a restraint, and the craziest part about it is over something that we control, not people opinion, but our reactions to it.
We need to build an emotional blockage to these things, avoid all things negative, shun away negative behavior and anyone who constantly put down others, it’s not good. It’s distasteful and poisonous.
Living based on what others think is living on their terms and condition then you miss out on opportunities because someone else thought you weren’t good enough.
Don’t wake up many years later and live in regret because I you yielded to what you thought of you.
Take a step backward and dare what about the bad things people say.
Always try to be your best self.
No one is better than anyone but when anyone tries to demean and be condescending to people, it makes them look one-dimensional and trivial.
5 Practical Ways to Not Care What Other People Think
1. Never compare
Everyone’s journey in life will never ever be the same, even if you admire someone and follow in their footsteps, there will be some things that occur on your path in life that will make you unique.
One of the greatest ways to not care what other people think about you is to think of yourself great. Yes, think of all the good qualities that you can think of yourself and place it on a high mental pedestal runway and push it off and soar like a kite, everyone else’s negative thoughts and feelings towards you is not worth embracing nor taking personally.
2. Set Limits
It’s alright to say no to people. You’re no super human. Don’t overwork yourself because you’re trying to please people or fit in the crowd. I mean sometimes you’re going to make sacrifices and do things for people. However don’t become so obsessed that you don’t get to work on you. If someone sees you as a true friend they shouldn’t have a problem with you saying no. You must look out for yourself, it doesn’t matter who it is, say no sometimes. Give yourself a break.
Set a limit for yourself. Know what you’re capable of doing and work with it. Either people like it or not, but at the end of the day, your happiness matters the most.
Set high standards for yourself. Don’t undermine your belief system and values just because you dont want to be seen as weird or boring. If someone values who you are a as a person, they will accept you for you.
You have all the right to set limits–once someone starts to drift from it, tell them that “friendship” will only continue if they desist from such behavior, if they continue, stop having them in your company; don’t malice them, malice turns bitterness, just have them off at a distance. You simply need to not care what other people think.
3. Live your life for you
You need to constantly remind yourself that it is your life and that you are living and noneelse’s. At the end of the day, once God blesses you with life, you’re the one who will wake up at the end of it and either be happy that you were your true self and lived extensively or be sad that you didn’t achieve what you wanted because of others thought.
4. Don’t be afraid of failure.
Failure is inevitable, if anyone goes through life and never fails then he/she hasn’t started living life yet. If someone laughs at your failure and reminds you of it, then you have the upper hand and a bigger laughter because you know that failing is only a guide, a step up from your previous step and eventually you will be successful.
5. Instantly Remove negative sources
Dismiss all the negative energy from your life instantly. It doesn’t matter who it is-family, friends, colleagues, once they have a negative vibe about them, remove them from your life.
If you’re in the public space and have issues with all the negative things people have to say, you can detach yourself from it, don’t follow them up. people will always find something bad about what you do even if what you’re doing has a good intention behind it.
If you want to do something in life, do it, follow your passion didn’t let anyone discourage you. I made the mistake of listening to people and put my YouTube channel and blog on a whole because said I dint have the image or the resources needed to go on these platforms. I listened to people for a while and thought it wasn’t good enough. It was a struggle trying to live my dream whilst having these negative people around me It wasn’t until I decided to take control of my dreams that I had to let these negative energy from people affect my life.
You have to understand that your mind is powerful and no matter how anyone thinks of you don’t see yourself a particular way, no one can let you.
Rather than wallowing over negative remarks, simply disregard them.
I had to focus on the dream goal of mine and what put a smile on my I continue accomplishing the work that satisfies me. I keep on following my energy. I decide to make positive, beneficial, satisfying choices with my time.
Starting today, You can stop caring what people think.
On a Final Note
If others opinions matters and affect you and you want to change that follow those steps. Also, say this with me and believe it, I’m passing some of my positive energy to you.
I want you to say this looking in a mirror-“my opinion of myself matters most.” Say it again with more conviction: “my opinion of myself matters most.”
If it didn’t sound as convincing as you want to, say it over and over until you believe and then you will start to live it.
Rise up. It’s a new day, have a new perspective. It’s not that hard to not care about what other people think. You simply need to do you.
