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Why Is letting go so hard? Learning when to let go is something that we must take keen thought of if we want to live our best lives. If we keep holding onto the past, we will never grow.
Letting go can be difficult for numerous reasons.
Fear sometimes makes it difficult to let go. You get so dependable on a particular object or person or system to get happiness, satisfaction, survival that you fear things will crash and you’ll be far worse.
To be safe we simply latch on to it. Hanging on is a bad habit that you need to let go of.
We often become so set in our ways that we get complacent. This does more harm to us than good so learning when to let go should be taken seriously.
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5 Steps to learn when to let go
1. See letting go as an opportunity to be free
Learning when to let go should be something you embrace to be free. Sometimes you keep harboring people in your life that doesn’t impact or help you in a positive way.
Maybe they used to be good to you but over time they have changed, and because you don’t feel worthy enough of another relationship, you keep hanging on.
You need to let go. its life, things happen and people grow apart, you’re not the first person it has happened to. Let it go.
When you figure out how to let it go, you become liberated from the agony that kept you down.
Stop holding on to things that never serve you, for example, unhealthy relationships. They may have been a time where these relationships were positive and helped but it has gone sour and causing you more harm than good, that is the point at which it’s an ideal opportunity to move on.
2. See Letting a way of personal growth
If you keep holding to things that harm you or it doesn’t allow you to grow, it may give you gratification, but it also takes away a lot of time from that could otherwise be used to do positive uplifting activities.
If you keep holding to past mistakes, things that people have said or done to heal then you won’t grow. Be healed, a part of growing is healing first.
Things are continually evolving therefore to grow you need to let go of what isn’t progress.
Learning when to let go will become easier with time and make you more mature and your self-confidence will grow.
3. See letting go as becoming accountable
It is so easy sometimes to cast blame on others for our problems. We often wallow in self-pity and play the victims game, and while it may be true that the person preyed on our vulnerability or naivety, if we sit and wait for the person to apologize to us and try to make it right, that may take years or never happen.
Therefore, holding on would mean we are at one level for the rest of our lives. Some people will never admit they’re wrong. However, you have the responsibility for your own life. You have to be accountable for your own life.
I’m sure you want to be happy. I know its easier said than done, but if you’re serious about letting, if you’re serious about changing your life, you will dig deep, deep for that drive. Know your reason and that will inspire you to let go.
4. See letting go as survival
I had attended a seminar and this lady told us once that she was in an abusive relationship. She thought she couldn’t leave because she was so emotionally attached to him, and financially dependent.
The situation got so bad that she made it up in her mind to leave him. She acted like everything was normal, the next day packed her things and left. My point is this, no matter what happened to you, if you’re looking out for yourself, you will do what is necessary.
She thanked him and forgave him because it was her leaving that made her realized that she could stand on her own feet. She thanked him because of him she was able to develop a strong mind.
You can forgive even if they don’t deserve it. At the end of the day, your happiness matters. Get in the frame of learning when to let go so that you can go out in the world and live your life for you.
I would recommend that you write down what you need to change and place it somewhere you can see it as a reminder.
- For example, I may have been _________________ but it won’t affect my life anymore.
- I make up my mind today to let go of ___________________I need to let it go for me.
You can expand on this by listing more things you keep holding on to and compare benefits you’ll receive, and how you look forward to a new chapter in your life.
Once you’ve made your decision to let go, write them down, and post it somewhere you’ll see it every day. This will ingrain it in your subconscious mind, and the new behavior will begin to manifest itself naturally.
5. See letting go as life lesson
Life is predominantly about the progression of events that are intended to teach us important lessons. When we refuse to let go of something, it is because we don’t realize the lesson life wants to teach us.
Even things that we did many years go, get over. We can’t change the past so get over your regrets. You may find it difficult to let go because you’re empowering the hurt to cloud your judgment and your behavior.
I mean you have to process what has happened to you and grief that period of your life, but there comes a point when you have to let it go. The beauty of learning when to let go is that you uncover certain areas of your life that you didn’t know existed.
The thing with holding ourselves back is you won’t be able to discover your God-given unless you heal. That is why it may take years to find out what your purpose is.
We dwell on the hurt rather than the lesson. You can start that change today.
When you find it hard to heal from a situation, or when you struggle to let go, ask yourself what can you learn? It may take a while to process and discover the answer but once you’ve answered it, things can change for the better for you.
On A Final Note
I know from individual experience that letting can be a difficult thing to do but letting makes you lighten, trust me.
Today, the important to know about learning when to let go is that it’s a process, it doesn’t happen overnight. Do you want to live your best life? It’s time you look out for.
Stop holding yourself because of what others have done you, stop holding yourself back because of the mistakes of your past. Do you want to experience growth in your life?
Let things stay exactly where they are, in the past. Let go of the past. No matter how powerful any man is, one thing they can’t do is change the past. So, get over it
Let it go!
Do you think you can let it go today? What are your thoughts?
